I finally gave up on Saturday, I thank everyone for their help (especially JohnWR, Ghost, Raygun). I figure either I missed something or it's the ECM. I spent Sat / Sun looking for someone that could bench test it.
$100+ to check it but he can't bench test if so I'd have to deliver the car to him, ($50 ish to truck it)
$400+ for a new ECM
Probably 1 hr to install it at $100+.
And that's assuming that it is the ECM and they don't spend a lot of time replacing parts until they find it.
So I was looking at maybe $650 or more if I let the dealer do it.
I finally found a company an hour drive from me that rebuilds all sort of auto electrical and electronics. If they can't find or fix the problem it will still be cheaper than the dealer and they suggest I will have it back by the Friday, the dealer wouldn't even look at it until Thursday or Friday.
So, keeping my fingers crossed.
2009 Solstice Street Edition W/Spoiler, Automatic, stock with the exception of DDM CAI and Windrestrictor, 38k miles.
Build date 09/08